Playing with your child in 2018

Playing with your child every day, even if it is only 10 or 15 minutes, allows you to develop real complicity with him and contributes to enriching the bond that unites you. When you take part in their games, your child understands that you value what is important to them.

Keep in mind that the goal is to have fun and share a good time with your child, not to teach them to play or to turn a play into an educational activity. If playing with your child is always about learning, he or she will not feel like playing, but instead doing an exercise or task to please you. The pleasure then risks to disappear and to play, and it is above all to have pleasure!

  • Let your child decide
  • Discover each other through the game
  • Should you always play with your child?
  • Learn to play alone
  • Playing, a cure for stress

Let your child decide.

Let your child lead the game because this is the only area where he can decide everything (unlike food, clothing, bedtime…). When making decisions, your child feels a great sense of control, which gives him pride and self-esteem. You can offer small variations to enrich the game, but without imposing them. It is your child who decides whether or not to accept them.

Discover each other through the game

By playing with your child, you will get to know him in a new light, and your child will know you outside your serious role as a parent. You will see how he organizes his game, what initiatives he takes, his reaction to a tower of blocks that keep falling, his perseverance to finish a puzzle, his imagination… For his part, he will realize that, like him, you like to laugh, that you sometimes have funny ideas and that you know how to have fun.

Moreover, he will be calmer: he will not have to look for all the means to attract your attention since you will give him some by playing with him. Besides, he will more readily accept a refusal when he asks you to play with him if he knows he can play with you at a particular time of the day.

Should you always play with your child?

If you don’t have enough time or energy after a busy day or if you don’t like to play too much, rest assured. When your child asks you to play with him, he wants you to give him attention first. That’s what you do when you:

Giving your child attention is just as important as playing with them.
Share good times with him, such as talking with him at bath time and during meals, singing while driving, leafing through a book together, taking a walk in the park, etc.;
Just watch your child play. Take the opportunity, for example, to comment on his drawings or to encourage him while he builds a tower with his cubes;
Introduce your child to household chores as a game. He will be happy to help you on a daily basis to set the table or sort the linen, for example.
All of these activities give your child a sense of importance as you spend time with them.

Learn to play alone

For a child, learning to play alone is as important as sharing playtime with mom or dad. By playing alone, your child develops independence, resourcefulness, imagination and the ability to take the initiative. Moreover, playing alone allows him to decide what he plays, how, with what and for how long.

If your child has trouble playing without you, avoid sending him to play alone in his room (he will think you want to get rid of him) or telling him that you do not understand that with so many toys he can get bored. Instead, install it close to you and comment on what it does while you go about your business. For example, say, “Wow! They look good your clay cookies! “or “I’m sure Grandma will love the drawing you do for her. “By talking to your child, you are accompanying him in his play, and that encourages him to continue.

Playing, a cure for stress.

Laughter is an excellent antidote to stress because it produces in our body a natural hormone, endorphin, which reduces fatigue and stress.
Playing with your child makes you rediscover the pleasure of the present moment. In his game, your child is focused on what is happening. Running a race with his cars or trying to slide his truck on a narrow slope monopolizes all his attention.